INKOVEMA Podcast „Well through time“

#71 – Anxiety in counselling and mediation

The fear of mediators in the face of mediators.

In conversation with Peter Bremicker

Well through time. The podcast about mediation, conflict coaching and organisational consulting.

Peter Bremicker, theologian, teaching transactional analyst, trauma educator and trauma-sensitive counsellor, now living in Hamburg and once based in Lörrach.

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Addressing fears is not the solution, but the condition for finding solutions.

Introduction Today is about fear, the feeling of fear. Our fears can cause us to travel and drive us away from where we are or where we want to go. And they can support us on our journey and help us make smart decisions. More than almost any other emotion, fear is a decision-making factor for our actions – and often we are not even fully aware of it as a decisive factor.

My own story of fear has, I can now say with complete serenity, brought me to where I am today, or more precisely, where I am currently sitting; in front of a podcast microphone, on behalf of my own company, as a doctor of law, as an independent conflict counsellor and mediator. Admittedly, it was by no means only my fears that drove me here, but certainly also fortunate and fortuitous circumstances and also a little bit of hard work and perseverance. However, fears certainly played a part in these too. For today's topic, fears in the counselling or mediation situation, I would therefore like to differentiate between two main manifestations right at the beginning, which I will address with my guest today: Firstly, the client's fearsinside, Mediantand the people being counselled. How do we as counsellorshow do we deal with this? How do we diagnose and how do we intervene as a professional response? And secondly, our fears as counsellorsAs mediators in the face of the conflict parties, your expectations and our expectations of ourselves?

Also – and I might almost say – above all this area is decisive for the success of counselling, coaching and mediation.

My guest today is a wonderful colleague and expert in counselling in times of crisis and therefore anxiety: Peter Bremicker.

In interpersonal relationships, fear does not primarily inform us about external, objective threats, but about what we have learnt in the past.

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