INKOVEMA Podcast „Well through time“
#195 – The Life Script.
A concept of transactional analysis
Helpful for the professionalisation and self-awareness of mediators and counsellors.
In conversation with Natalia Berrio Andrade
Natalia Berrio Andrade, is a teaching trainer and teaching supervisor for transactional analysis (PTSTA-C) and Aikido master (5th Dan Aikikai Tokyo) and founder of the institute. She is a lecturer at the Deggendorf University of Applied Sciences and runs the TA-Campus in Hamburg.
Well through time.
The podcast about mediation, conflict coaching and organisational consulting.
Contents
Chapter
0:05 – Welcome to the podcast Gut durch die Zeit
6:03 – Self-awareness and life script in mediation
10:15 – The importance of unconscious patterns
17:25 – Influence of childhood experiences on conflicts
21:43 – Reflection on own conflict experiences
30:56 – Personality development during counselling
35:08 – Conclusion on script work for mediators
„I don't have to put up with everything “
Summary
In this episode, we look at the Topic self-awareness which plays an essential role for counsellors, conflict managers and mediators. I talk to my colleague Natalia Berrio-Andrade about the challenges that can arise when mediators act in conversations that are familiar to them and that once involved very stressful experiences. These imprints, which transactional analysts conceptualise as possible life script content, can cloud today's counselling work. Self-awareness is therefore crucial in order to prevent one's own unconscious patterns and negative experiences from impairing professionalism in the counselling process.
We discuss the concept of the life script, a central model of transactional analysis, that can help us to recognise our unconscious decisions and behavioural patterns. We shed light on how early childhood experiences and the way we dealt with conflict back then shape our behaviour and attitude to conflict today. These unconscious patterns, if not reflected upon, can ultimately have a negative impact on the quality of our counselling.
Natalia talks about her own experiences, for example at a seminar she recently held with horses and Aikido, and how this hands-on work has helped her Understanding your own life plan has deepened. The idea that every decision we make is directly linked to our early experiences is seen as a force that can be both a hindrance and a help. The exchange promotes a better understanding of the importance of knowing one's own conflict culture and relationship patterns, especially in counselling settings.
The importance of self-reflection is emphasised in our conversation. We discuss how dealing with personal experiences of conflict is not only crucial for one's own growth, but also for the quality of the interventions that mediators carry out in their work. When mediators are aware of their own response patterns, they can more effectively support and encourage their clients in conflict situations.
Finally, we show that the Working with the life script is a valuable method for breaking through one's own unconscious patterns. By consciously reflecting on one's own past and applying it to current counselling situations, it is possible to gain a clearer picture of one's own role and ultimately improve the quality of counselling work. Natalia's expertise and the methodological approaches she describes open up new perspectives for all those involved in conflict and mediation work.
Transcription of the conversation