Chapter
0:30 Einführung in Mediation und Konfliktcoaching
3:46 Die Rolle des Beraters im Konflikt
7:37 Überblick und Klarheit im Beratungsprozess
9:13 Metaphern aus der Kindheit
11:24 Fazit und Ausblick auf die Zukunft
Summary
In dieser Episode widmen wir uns dem grundlegenden Verständnis von Beratung im Kontext der Mediation und des Konfliktcoachings. Anhand einer Metapher des dunklen Waldes untersuche ich, wie sich Klienten in schwierigen Situationen fühlen, wenn sie nicht wissen, wie sie vorankommen sollen. Zudem wird erörtert, was unsere Rolle als Mediatoren und Coaches in diesen Momenten beinhaltet. Wir vermeiden es, Lösungen vorzugeben, und bringen die Klienten stattdessen dazu, ihre eigene Situation zu reflektieren und zu analysieren.
Ich betone, dass es eine entscheidende Aufgabe ist, dem Klienten einen Überblick über seine Situation zu ermöglichen. Oft befinden sie sich an einer metaphorischen Kreuzung, umgeben von Bäumen, die den Blick auf mögliche Wege versperren. Meine Aufgabe besteht darin, ihm zu helfen, seine Position im „Wald“ zu bestimmen und darüber nachzudenken, woher er kommt und wohin er möchte. Dabei ist es entscheidend zu erkennen, dass wir nicht die Lösungen für ihre Probleme haben, sondern dass der Klient selbst der Experte seiner eigenen Situation ist. Es gilt, ihm zu helfen, um den Wald herum zu sehen und die verschiedenen Möglichkeiten zu identifizieren, die ihm zur Verfügung stehen.
In dieser Episode gehe ich auch auf den emotionalen Aspekt ein und erläutere, wie Gefühle zwar eine Rolle spielen, jedoch nicht das Kernstück unserer Beratungsarbeit darstellen. Unser Ziel ist es, den Klienten nicht nur zu sich selbst oder seinen inneren Konflikten zu führen, sondern ihm zu helfen, Klarheit über die gegenwärtige Situation zu erlangen. Der Weg nach oben, symbolisiert durch das Erklimmen eines Aussichtsturmes im Wald, ermöglicht es dem Klienten, die Dinge aus einer neuen Perspektive zu betrachten, Vergangenes zu reflektieren und Zukünftiges wohlbegründet zu planen.
Ein wichtiges Element unserer Arbeit ist es, genügend Zeit zu investieren, um diese Perspektivwechsel und Rückblicke zuzulassen. Oft sind die Klienten zunächst frustriert, weil sie denken, dass sie keinen Fortschritt erzielen. Dennoch wird deutlich, dass das Verständnis ihrer Situation und die Erkundung möglicher Wege bereits einen wertvollen Schritt darstellen. Abschließend ziehe ich Parallelen zu meiner eigenen Kindheit im Erzgebirge, wo die Landschaft und diese Metaphern für mich eine tiefere Bedeutung haben. Ich betone, dass wir in unserer Beratungsarbeit nicht vor unseren Klienten stehen oder hinter ihnen zurückbleiben müssen, sondern dass wir uns gemeinsam auf den Weg machen können, um in herausfordernden Situationen Fortschritte zu erzielen und das nächste Ziel zu definieren.
Transcription
[0:24]The is Consequence 26.
[0:30]Beratungsverständnis for Mediation and Conflict coaching in the dark Wald not weiterwissen.
[0:36]These Consequence would like I utilise, not on the basis of one only Falles the Topic of the Beratungsverständnisses aufzubereiten, but something Grundlegendes to the Beratungsverständnis to say, because the not only in the Mediation with the Order clarification one Role plays, but also in Ausbildungskontexten always again Clarity required respectively also Questions aufwirft. Yes, what make we because actually as Mediators and as Coaches? And to this Topic ließe itself one whole Quantity say. And there was also already insane much written. Therefore would like I here in this Episode a whole own Picture entwerfen, the me helps, mine Labour and mine Task and also my Understanding of roles to clarify. And the has what with the dark Wald to do. So much to the Vorrede. So like Mediators, at least in local Gefilden, on it pay attention, none Solution vorzugeben, are Business-Coaches and Supervisoren on it bedacht, none Ratschläge to erteilen. Whether already exactly the Yours first gemeinsamer, when also possibly the only Advice is, the You give, itself on a such Procedure einzulassen. But what shall the bring? For Training candidates and Beginner lies exactly here one first Bewährungsprobe. Sich the Sense and the Benefit one such Procedure to open up. Because intuitive is the keineswegs.
[2:05]Intuitiv Go we from one Specialist counselling from. The Expert as Consultant white from his Fachdisziplin more as the Zuberatende, the the Problem has. And therefore is Bruderrat teuer.
[2:20]Whilst for Process beratet the heilige Kuh is, that the Problemträger, the problemtragende Person, the Expert his Problems is and also stay shall and therefore with him also the Solution lies. And there likes itself the one or other already ask, what do I there as Coach, as Mediator, when but the Solution anyway already with the other lies, mine Clients, mine Mediants. And these Question would like I with mine whole personal inneren Picture here answer. My inneres Picture corresponds to one Person, the in the dichten dark Wald stands and not more white. Possibly on one Kreuzung with many Abzweigungen, but not know, what is the richtige.
[3:08]Keine Concern, the is also none biografische Kindheitserfahrung from the Ore Mountains, where I herstamme. In any case not in the narrower senses. In mine Kindheit was the Regen sauer and the Wald, as far as at all available was, very licht. No, it goes here already at the dark Forest. And nevertheless have I natural erzgebirgische Hügel before the inneren Auge. Since come I perhaps later again in addition. Since is so someone or several in one Conflict, the in the dichten Wald not more know, itself in the Kreise turn, allseits umschauen and only Wald entdecken. Bäume, the none Path preisgeben.
[3:46]Sometimes threatens Panik. The Need, itself hinzukauern, Place to take, is large, but it must Yes somehow weitergehen. But wohin?
[3:55]What is so mine Task as hinzugezogener Consultant or also Mediator?
[4:02]In any case not, him the Path to weisen. I white Yes even not, where to he wants and woher he comes. No, mine Task is it, him one Overview to enable, one Standortbestimmung, the it him erlaubt, his Path in the right Direction fortzusetzen. And the is not only one Question of the Waldes, where he itself is located, but the has also what with him to do, woher he comes and where to he wants. As Consultant see I only the Momentaufnahme, that he in this Situation, in this Wald, in this Constitution not more white. But whether the a 100 metres Lauf is or a Marathon or a Ultramarathon, I white it not. And therefore can I not say, where he itself located and like wide it still to the Goal is, respectively where itself the is located. But like the also in the Erzgebirge so is, these Persons ask already, where am I here gelandet? Where goes it go on? And the bedarf one ausführlicheren Conversation, to the I as Consultant and Mediator with pleasure ready am. I übernehme so with pleasure the Order, this Person one Vogelperspektive to enable and to recognise, where comes he here?
[5:17]Where located he itself concrete and where to like his Paths him lead? And itself for one this Paths then to entscheiden. And then can we us also say goodbye. And the is also in the Mediation like this, that I this Persons as a Conflict system ermögliche, the Fugelperspektive to take and from there from to recognise, like have we us there moves, like have we us hinein manövriert and like come we here again out. And be it also on different Wegen. This Picture has Consequences. I understand mine Labour not in it, him to lead, him from the Wald to lead or the like more, but the Base one Fortführung to create, so in the best Senses one Standortbestimmung to enable. My Labour exists only to one small Part in it, him to itself itself to lead, to his Gefühlen, to his Innenleben etc. The is for me only in this respect from Belang, as that these Phenomena in the Path stand can, these Standortbestimmung good and umfassend to be carried out. Who straight verängstigt, itself on the nächstbesten Tree kauert, the is hardly in the Location, the highest Tree to erklimmen, at from there from itself Clarity about his Location to procure. Is logisch.
[6:39]His Feelings and be Innenleben can but a strong Motivator be, even this Tree or the next Lichtung to reach, at from there from more See to can. So Feelings play already one Role, but not the one Schlüsselfunktion, like perhaps in one Therapie.
[6:57]So, mine Labour exists not in it, metaphorical him from his Location fortzuführen or generally to lead, but him one Overview to gewähren, him to the Overview to enable, so that he with Weitblick and Clarity sees, like his Situation realisation came and like them at the moment beschaffen is and what it needs, at them to change. These Labour is sometimes mühsam. Sometimes are only Trees vorhanden, the hochgeklettert become want. Sometimes is there also a Aussichtsturm or one Platform in the Proximity and stands
[7:34]to the available, the utilised become could, at View to win. But them would like also climbed become. And a more important Part the Labour exists in it, itself there top umzuschauen, in all Peace and quiet and not equal the first best Path auszuwählen, hinabzusteigen and to go further, sondern, when one already once the Mühsal aufgebracht has, itself right umzuschauen, one Location to erklimmen, from the one such Umschau with Weitblick also possible is, and the Things in 360 Degree to erkunden, where one Vergangenes reflect can and Zukünftiges in radikaler Openness wohlbedacht auswählen can.
[8:13]Then must one itself in favour Time take. And then steigen we also together again hinab to the Position, where we us encounters were. And not rare comes then also one Bemerkung, completely to Law in the Metaphor, now am I also still none Step continue. And yes, the right. Nevertheless is it a wohliges, beruhigendes Feeling to know, that before one none Abgrund is, or when there one was, this umgangen become can and the inneren Abgründe anyway good erkundet were on the Path to oben.
[8:49]And to the Conclusion this small Episode to the Beratungsverständnis, the I on the basis of one Metaphor try to verdeutlichen, come I but again on the Erzgebirge back. Because in the Preparation was me clear, that my inneres Picture with the Wald and the Aussichtsturm and the Possibility, Overview to win,
[9:11]narrow with the Erzgebirge connected is. Because in mine Kindheit gave it this Berg, the so-called Galgenberg, about the one itself the schrecklichen Stories tells has, the one itself in one Small town from the Middle Ages tells and the for me one good Abkürzung was, from the one Location to the other to come, when I to the Sport gone am or the like, but the I never Go wanted and already even not, when it dark was in the Winter. And this Berg samt his Trees and the Aussichtsplattform on the Spitze, the again climbed become could, but not durfte.
[9:48]Bot one very good Übersicht, Umsicht and View on the umliegende Erzgebirge. Man could wide look and but see, that one on the Galgenberg was and when one again back wanted, through the Wald musste.
[10:08]These Metaphor Helps me and possibly also you and let me the know, whether it the Case is, what we for one Task have and like we ours Relationship to ours Clients organise can on one very basalen, narrativen Level. Namely, that we not the Clients lead. We must none Step ahead be and also not hinterherhängen. We encounter us in one possible Notlage, in one difficult Situation, in the the Client or the Klientensystem in one Conflict not more white. Prinzipiell already continue could, but the Befürchtung has, the Schlamassel becomes only always tiefer. And here is it important, one Overview to get, one Review to enable, one Outlook to gewähren and also one momentanen Durchblick again to win, at so that then the next Step to planen and the Path voranzugehen. And the is what wert. And probably the, the in one such Situation itself is located, one Person finds, the the ermöglicht.
[11:25]And on the other hand is the one sinn- and freudvolle Work, like I me hardly one other introduce can.
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