INKOVEMA Podcast „Well through time“

#49 – The dark side of mediation II – Dangers for mediators

The five mediation paths that lead mediators to the dark side of mediation.

In conversation with Markus Troja

Well through time. The podcast about mediation, conflict coaching and organisational consulting.

Contents:

If, like in Star Wars, the Mediation one dark Lord, he could give his students five guiding principles that would help them to dark Page the Mediation lead:

1. be certain, Mediation can do no harm. It's always worth a try.

2 Your task is to bring the parties to the conflict to the table. In any case, convince them of the Mediation and draw their attention away from the alternatives.

3. get the parties to come to an agreement. The success of the Mediation is the agreement. Direct all your actions towards it.

• What is successful mediation?
• Motivations of mediators during mediations?

4. as a mediator, you also have responsibility for the development of the Mediation yourself. You are the guardian of the true Mediation. Believe in their work and do not allow any deviation from the pure doctrine.

5. always endeavour to reconcile the conflicting parties. Only consider a dispute to be over when both parties Pages really forgive and forget.

• "The image and the aftermath of the conflict and everything that one had to reproach the other for remains in the consciousness and cannot be put off. But undiminished love and attachment grow around this, in that those memories and resignations do not act as subtractions, but are inserted like organic components into the image of the other person, whom we now love, so to speak, including these liabilities in the balance of our overall relationship with him - just as we love a person with all his faults, which we cannot think away from him. The bitterness of the struggle, the points at which the personality of the other person has failed, which bring a permanent renunciation or a constantly renewed irritation into the relationship - all this is unforgotten and actually unreconciled. But it has been localised, so to speak, incorporated as a factor in the relationship as a whole, whose central intensity need not suffer as a result." (G. Simmel in Rammstedt, Georg Simmel Gesamtausgabe, vol. 7, Frankfurt a.M. 1995, p. 343 f.)

Literature:

• Specialist article: Markus Troja, The dark side of mediation, ZKM 4/2019, 138-141.
• Reference book: Fritz Breithaupt, The dark side of empathy. Frankfurt am Main 2017

Left:

• • Website of Markus Troja: www.trojapartner.de